Our sages tell us that the Jewish people accepted the Torah twice – once at Har Sinai and once on the first Purim. The acceptance at Har Sinai was “under coercion” – they said yes because they couldn’t resist. The love of Hashem that the Israelites felt as a result of the Exodus from Egypt made them excited to accept all the laws of the Torah.
This first acceptance can be compared to the first stage of marriage. That initial love and excitement makes it simple to commit to one another. Young couples often need to be reminded of the practicalities of marriage, since their heads are in the clouds and they are enjoying the heady feeling of loving and being loved.
The Purim story is a very different story from the giving of the Torah at Sinai. At Sinai, Hashem revealed himself to the people in thunder, lightning and speech. During the entire Purim story, G-d remained hidden and allowed the story to unfold through human efforts. Despite the lack of excitement and revelation, the Jewish people recognized that G-d was behind it all, and accepted His Torah once again, this time with complete free will.
Purim represents the later stage of marriage. The initial infatuation has matured into a deeper love, and the spouses commit to each other from a desire to make each other happy. There may be days where the commitment is challenged, but they know they are in it for the long haul and nothing shakes their devotion to each other.
The best way to get from the “in love stage” to the “loving stage” is through proper communication. Conflict resolution and problem-solving communication build a foundation which can’t be shaken by the various challenges life throws at us. These skills can be learned in a relatively short amount of time. Marriage education workshops teach these skills so you can implement them at home.
This Shavuot, give yourself and your spouse the gift of marriage education!
Amuta Together in Happiness/B’Yachad B’Osher and Beit Knesset Ohel Ari
Invite you to attend an I-PREP Relationship Workshop
For Dating, Engaged, Newly Married (Up to 3 years) Couples – a Special Date Night
At this transformative workshop, come discover:
- What Happy Couples do to stay positive
- The relationship spoilers to avoid at all costs
- Key listening communication techniques to talk without fighting
The workshop is in memory of Ari Weiss z”l
Date: Wednesday, June 20
Time: 7PM – 9:30PM
Place: Beit Knesset Ohel Ari
Price: 50 NIS per couple
Wine and Cheese Served
Deadline for registration: June 19, 2018
For questions and to register contact: [email protected]